No drama lama please
Drama, drama and even more drama. What is the point?
I am becoming increasingly more aware of how much energetic space unnecessary drama are taking up in our lives. To me, it almost seems like people create drama out of nothing to keep their lives occupied with shallow talking, feeling and thinking. As if we did not have drama, life would be boring.
And that could not be further away from the truth.
It’s not easy; I also allow myself to be pulled into energetic downward spirals of drama, gossip and judgment. At the same time, I try to create as much quiet, calm and ease as humanly possible. That seems to work very well for me and is not dull. If anything, it invites space for more depth of awareness of our mind, body and spirit and deeper, more profound connections to other people.
I am reminded of this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt: “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
That is not to suggest that we never talk about our feelings or share what we are going through. All of us know that talking things through has a healing effect. Talking about our feelings and creating drama are two very different things.
Drama is disproportionate anger, slandering, rudeness, judgements, no awareness, no accountability and no taking of responsibility. Drama is when we try to make someone else feel small or speak poorly about someone behind their backs. It is a pretty weak thing to do.
My suggestion is to try instead to operate from a place of calm. Again, I’m not suggesting that we can never feel anger, upset, frustration, passion, upset or ecstatic. Of course, you can; these are all essential human experiences to go through.
To me, at least, it is about proportionate expressions, and we should try to leave out brutality, rage, rudeness and slandering. I don’t think that helps anyone in any way.
Also, instead of talking about someone behind their backs, address it with them directly. Yes, that might be a difficult conversation, but it is better than contributing to more drama. Or, if you are not prepared to do so because you don’t think it will have any effect, say nothing to anyone. Or use the Abraham Lincoln method of “Hot letters”. In other words, write out an angry letter to someone and don’t send it.
I have mentioned these before, but another process to experiment with is the Socrates Triple Filter test.
So to conclude
Strive towards creating less drama and more calm
Listen more, speak less
Depth of awareness is key
Use the Socrates Triple Filter Test